Story from interview with Alyssa Berthiaume, ARCC Student and mother
Trevor Walstrom
4-13-11
Many people ask themselves the question, is college worth all of the trouble that accompanies it? For one local mother there was never any question. “I knew I had to go to college. I knew it was the only way to be successful and provide for my daughter and myself,” said Alyssa Berthiaume. She is a 21-year-old ARCC student and the mother of a three-year-old daughter named Ava.
“I was always a good student in high-school and I always planned to go to college afterward, but once I got pregnant at 18, things changed,” she said. “I knew I still had to go to school, but taking care of my daughter became my first priority.” Now in her sophomore year she reflects on the obstacles she has overcome to get on her chosen path.
“It isn’t easy being a single mother, especially when you’re young. I had to work two jobs just to be able to support us,” said Berthiaume. “But, my support system is very strong and helps me out a lot,” she said. “My mother and younger-sister babysit for me quite frequently which allows me to be able to work and go to school, both full-time,” she added.
As soon as high-school ended Berthiaume enrolled in a program to become a trained medical assistant, or tma. A tma is someone who works at a nursing-home or group-home and is trained and certified on passing out medication to patients. This was her first experience with school and it got her the job that still supports her and her daughter today. “It is a challenge, working and attending school full-time while supporting a three-year-old, but I know it will be worth it in the end,” she said. This is the attitude to which she attributes her success as a single mother.
Berthiaume is currently a resident of Coon Rapids and a student at Anoka-Ramsey Community College. “I plan to finish my generals at ARCC and hopefully transfer to the University of Minnesota to complete my bachelor’s degree in dental hygiene,” said Berthiaume. Berthiaume chose ARCC because it is “affordable and close to home,” she said. “I think ARCC is a great place to start off. It is very affordable, convenient, and flexible which is great for a young mother such as me.”
While she has certainly achieved success as a young, single mother, she recalls how difficult it was to get there. “After my daughter was born things became very difficult for me. I was frequently in-and-out of court arguing with my daughter’s father over things like a paternity test to prove she was his and child-support payments,” said Berthiaume. “Eventually the test results showed what I already knew and that he would have to pay child-support whether he wanted to or not.” But, the struggles for this young mother didn’t end there. “After my court problems had been settled I was able to focus on work and taking care of Ava. But, it was very difficult trying to balance work, studying, and parenthood. I was very tired constantly and I found it tough to stay on-top of my school work,” said Berthiaume. “I was definitely happy that I waited a little while after high-school to start college. It took me some time to learn to manage all of the new things in my life and I don’t think I would have done so well if I had taken on that extra workload right away. I quickly finished my tma program and settled in at my job which really helped me grow up quickly. Now that I’ve spent some time being a mom and working I feel I am much more prepared to handle school,” she added.
Berthiaume would like people to learn from her story and hopes that it can help other young mothers who are going through a similar situation. “I would like people to know that anything is possible and there is always more out there. Everyone has obstacles in life, but it’s how we overcome those obstacles that make us who we are."